"The Yellow Wallpaper"--Just a Question

While I was reading the story I continually noticed that the narrator was very careful to always talk about how much John loves her. As seen in many of the quotes of the previous post. I was going to ask about it in discussion but we ran out of time. Does the narrator constantly talk about John's love so the reader doesn't lay the blame on him, or does she do so to try to convince herself that she is living a normal life with the American dream and only her mind is holding her back? If John had truly loved her, would he have been more apt to listen to her? I wonder if perhaps the narrator only pretended that John treated her so only because she wanted to seem like a lovable person. The slept in separate beds, yet somehow he was there when she woke up at night.

"It is so hard to talk to John about my case, because he is so wise, and because he loves me so" (23). Why would it be hard to talk to someone because they are wise? Such quotes lead me to believe that the narrator is only pretending that her marriage is better than it is. But why would she hold up the facade well into her insanity?

Any feedback her would be helpful.